Wednesday, June 28, 2017

getting more and more expensive?

According to statistics from the ministry of civil affairs, since 2003, the number of divorces in China has increased for 14 consecutive years. In 2003, the number of divorces was 1331,000, and by 2016, it has grown to 4.850,000. Not only are the Numbers increasing, the growth rate is staggering, but the post-80s generation, according to the relevant statistics, have become the main demographic of the current divorce.
From the past talk of divorce and divorce, to the end of the 70s, Cheap nfl jerseysthe divorce is not a big deal, and the Chinese marriage outlook is changing. After 1970, the post-80s generation became divorced. A small sample survey conducted by sun yat-sen university in Shanghai and guangzhou showed that the number of married people in the post-70s and post-80s generation reached or nearly halved.
Why is the divorce rate high after 70? Media analysis suggests that the biggest killer of the post-1970s divorce is economic. It is often said that there is no "rich dad" in the 70s, but a lot of people start from scratch and win a lot of wealth. Because of this, let people have more expectation for "pillow people" : you are also engaged in IT, why can't you learn ma huateng? Why did you buy a luxury BMW, but I can only rent a bus with you? This kind of expectation and disappointment is often the result of a breakup. In addition to economic reasons, the number of people who have divorced after 70 are in turn: second, extramarital affair; Third, long years of separation; Fourth, women are better than men; Fifth, family conflict; Sixth, the sex life is not harmonious.
It is worth noting that the phenomenon of female stronger than male in the 70 s and 80 s are common in the marriage, the subversion of "male" family roles has, in time, economic relations, let men and women are more likely to cause confusion. On the one hand, the husband to inherit the traditional idea that it should be his wife to do chores, on the other hand, her husband in objectively but not "pillar" of the home, women will inevitably produce "with what my family want me to do the housework" complaints.
The post-80s divorce rate is higher than the post-80s generation. Why is the post-80s divorce rate so high? Many sociologists believe that the main reason for the biggest "killer" of divorce in the post-80s generation is parents. After 80 is mostly only children, for parents to rely on, cheap hatswhich directly caused their marriage: one is because from the parents can get a lot of affection, feelings for family less attachment after 80, even if the divorce or too "injury". The second is "spoiled" by the parents, after 80 are used to the dedication of love, parents since the childhood in his marriage, also often think that "the other side to me as the center, do dedication" for me, all want to get to dedication, lead to family conflicts to upgrade, and even ended in divorce.
According to the statistics, there are quite a few family couples who have been separated by their mother's interference. Some mother-in-laws have high expectations for their daughter's marriage, and she has placed a high threshold on her daughter's marriage. Some suspicion not brilliant career, some improper suspicion family door door is wrong, have a plenty of suspicion son-in-law cannot meet the material needs daughter or your own, therefore, would be against love, after marriage still opposed, if some son-in-law felt mother-in-law severely hurt their self-esteem, or tired of mother-in-law cynicism and supercilious look together, will naturally cause divorce.
When it comes to mother-in-law, you have to talk about house prices. Originally, the wedding and the house were a pair of "love and love", with "a long life together". Helplessly, the price of the price of the horizontal bar, with the reason and the excuse that "do not have", hard is to break up the two, even make a lot of family "wife and daughter scatter". House prices determine the divorce rate, although there is no direct or necessary link between the two. But we have to admit that we are in a time of housing price abduction, where the arms of the giant octopus are everywhere. It has already penetrated into every corner of the national economy, and the housing price, wholesale jerseysas a barometer of national economy, determines the happiness of most Chinese people.
Two years ago, a netizen from nanjing posted: "in the past few years, the higher the price, the higher the divorce rate, the more recent the more recent the more." His logic is: the house price is high, the housing pressure of the family is big, other expenditure is relatively little, husband and wife's mix mouth is much. And statistics of the trend of housing prices and the "synchronism" of divorce rate, such as: Beijing prices: 16057 yuan in 2009, 2,7130 yuan in 2010 and 23818 yuan in 2011. The corresponding divorce rate: 20.6% in 2009, 39% in 2010 and 40.2% in 2011. Shanghai house price: 10574 yuan in 2009, 22,040 yuan in 2010, 25778 yuan in 2011. The corresponding divorce rate: 23.9% in 2009, 38% in 2010 and 44% in 2011.
Have a support prices decided to divorce rate of the net friend also leave a message: "see the other people have cars happy happy life, is struggling to rent the little black house, someone else's child is a good school, you don't have the money to pay to the child to just pick an school choice fees only... all kinds of gap will give the poor a lot of pressure, both sides of husband and wife will complain that after a long time there will be a contradiction, life more humbled, not divorce." Of course, there are those who would argue that there are many factors that define the divorce rate, and that house prices are just one of them, and that they can't be "taken care of." But at the moment, it is not realistic to say that house prices have no impact on their lives.
It is not hard to find that a group of people who are still in the room after marriage, and a large group of people who are married and have not bought a home. Among them, "naked marriage" faces great challenges. A large part of this group, for their own living conditions at ordinary times to save to the extreme, husband and wife together to do what counts, even to the time the child was born after a precise plan of its own. Adding to the pressures of work, cheap snapback hatsthere are no opportunities for travel and play, and there is a lack of ways to unsettle emotions, and often fight until the end of the divorce.
Of course, there are some people who "divorce" because of the house. In today's Chinese society, marriage and divorce are used by some as a tool to circumvent government regulations when buying or selling houses. Because of the new Chinese property rules, couples who have two or more homes have been divorced and are able to sell their homes without having to pay a 20 percent tax on their homes. Under the new rules, "fake divorces" have occurred in cities such as Shanghai and local civil affairs departments have to limit the number of people who apply for divorce every day.
If the house is a new obstacle in the new era, the color gift is the "old and difficult" problem in our country for thousands of years. In accordance with the marriage custom of our country, when the man marries his wife, he should pay the bride's house or the bride price. The amount of the colour ceremony, depending on the local circumstances, the economic situation of the parties and so on. Over time, the money is also rising, from the trend of recent years, the average annual increase of 10,000 yuan, and also gradually become a marriage weight. In such a context, the families of the two families even have a conflict, which in turn affects the relationship between men and women.
Another change is in the modern society, cheap jerseysthe vast majority of women are no longer willing to be subservient to the man, the modern education completely abandoned the "wifely submission and virtue" of women, many families put the girls at an early age "superwoman" direction develop. Frequently as a result, we can see a phenomenon, that is from kindergarten until the campus, the girl became the class or grade student leaders is much higher than the proportion of boys and girls of participation and strong desire to rule the world, many girls not only to learn to control the boy, but also used to give orders to the boy, strong trend to form the phenomenon of Yin flourishes while Yang declines.
Want to know, the vast majority of men are like gentle wan, WenGong virtuous, considerate girl, absolute of "tiger", in the home very strength of the wife, as a result, a man in the home not gentle could turn into a lover, outside want to get is hard to put an end to the psychological balance, it is the leading cause of high divorce rate one of the deep-seated problems.
If the mother-in-law makes the men miserable, the mother-in-law is the "nightmare" of countless women. For thousands of years, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been one of the biggest problems in family life. In ancient times, in the society of "filial piety" and "three and four virtues", the daughter-in-law was undoubtedly the most vulnerable. But in modern times, the traditional shackles have been broken and the post-80s generation is the "most self-centered" generation. The daughter-in-law was forced to turn over to become master, and the mother-in-law did not do it again.
While many developed countries the divorce rate is higher than our country, however, such a deeply influenced by traditional culture in China, the divorce has been very cautious and careful, the increasing divorce rate, still need to be taken seriously. At the very least, the reasons for the divorce should be understood and analyzed, and some solutions and countermeasures are proposed. Engels said any "marriage of death" would be unethical and unethical. In this sense, the more progressive, open and democratic a society is, the more tolerant of divorce. But divorce, after all, is the result of a broken marriage, and a lot of social problems.
Chinese people say that westerners are very unserious and have a close relationship with each other before they get married. Foreigners say the Chinese are not serious and that the relationship is not close enough to marry. Although not absolute, Wholesale nfl jerseyswesterners are more serious and cautious about marriage than they are about love. In their opinion, love is the process of romance, how the two people can interact with each other, but marriage is a lifetime thing, not a play, so you must be careful. By contrast, Chinese people do not think much about getting married, which is why they are more and more regretful after marriage.

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

On Respect

I’m reading “Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry”.  Queenie was still waiting for Harold. Thank God. Because of that, cheap nfl jerseysHarold decided to go on, and he decided to do it his own way. I’m glad to read that. It’s just too hard to insist on something when the whole world seems to be against it. In fact, Harold reminds me of another old man, and what happened to him today.
I’ve joined in several English learning wechat groups and this old gentleman came from one of them. It’s a large group of about 130 students. You can imagine how hard it can be to maintain it in certain rules and meanwhile to keep it as active as possible. And this gentleman stood forward and voluntarily helped to organize this group. He called himself Vice-monitor. From his conversation we knew that he always retired from work. His English is surprisingly good, if it has not reached at professional level, at least better than most of us. In the following days, we all know how serious he meant it when he said that he wanted to help. From day break to midnight, he has almost spent all of his time in this group. He seems to be on line all the time, reminding those who forgot to do homework, adding comments here and there on our speaking. Why does he take so much troubles in this learning group? No one is going to pay him for that. Perhaps he is bored, or perhaps he just like the feelings of being useful, whatever the story behind this, I think he deserves—at least—some respects for his efforts. I wonder if he was once a teacher, he sounds like one. Sometimes if he thought I didn’t speak right, he would ask me to do it again. I might hold reservations about some of his comments, but every time I happily do as what he said. What’s the shame of following the order from an old man, who keeps learning after retirement, and who likes to give comments and suggestions to the others? As far as I think, that’s the spirit we should encourage and learn. However not everyone felt the same way. Another young student doesn’t like his way of doing. He dropped lines to question his qualification, hint that he was too intruding. And today, when he was trying to hand in his homework, he was interrupted by that old man’s comments on another student’s speaking, he exploded. “Blar, blar, blar, who do you think you are? “ “If you are so good, why not apply to be the monitor. If you are not, then stop acting like one.” “Just speak less, old man!” One by one, his words dropped like heavy stones, throwing to the old man.
I was shocked. I really didn’t understand what all these angers for? Is it really so hard for him to just say:” Hi, guys, it’s my turn. Would you please stop for just a few minutes?”
I’ve joined several English learning groups. Some of them are very quiet. No one shares, no one drops any messages. When the monitors calls for homework, few answered. Is this the right way of learning a foreign language? As far as I concern, you need someone active in a group to make it work. We should be lucky to have Mr. Vice-Monitor here to inspire the others. If you think a group too active, turn on Mute Notification button. If you don’t like your speaking being commented, just ignore it. If you don’t want the others suggestion, then at least learn to respect their efforts. There’s many better ways to deal with it, why choose the one that hurt the most? English is the tool of communication, and the No.1 rule for communication should always be respect.

if you know how to quit, you can be the best

The majority Chinese students have been studying very hard from kindergarten to high school until they enter into a Uni.

Unfortunately, due to tough competition, some of them haven’t reached the required Uni entrance scores, cheap nfl jerseysthen they have to waste 4 years to study a course which they are not ready to enroll.

They can’t see a bright future ahead of them, therefore, it’s likely for them to spend time playing games, watching TV shows, dating or falling asleep in the classroom.

You might regard yourself as a loser, you are inferior to others, no matter how hard you try, and your destiny can’t be changed because you have failed at the beginning.

“Destiny is not a matter of chance; it’s a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.” – William Jennings Bryan

Therefore, please don’t waste your precious time on trivial things, they won’t help you compete with others, if you can’t stand out to create your own fate, then you will be a real loser.

If you don’t enjoy the course you are studying, then take it easy, please don’t spend too much time on it, cheap hatsas long as you can pass, complete a degree, that’s ok.

But that doesn’t mean you have no future, you don't deserve the life you dream of.

Yes, you can!!!! You still can!!! Please don’t give up.

The main thing is that you know what attracts you when you start doing it, you lose track of time as if you are falling in love.

Please don’t let it happen because you think everyone else is making money from it.

Because if it is only for money, you’ll end up really disappointed if you can’t immediately get profit from what you are doing, then you are easy to stop at half way by wasting time.

One of my relatives, he did journalism at the Uni, but that’s not what he was willing to learn, he had to choose it because he didn’t get enough score for entering IT department.

How disappointing!!! Instead of complaining or trying to kill time, he selected a few IT subjects in the Uni, moreover, he attended IT short courses outside the classes, but mainly he did self-taught IT, meanwhile, he keeps learning English.

As he specialized in IT and English for 4 years, after graduated from the Uni, he got a job as marketing, but he’s helping company doing IT work.

He was happy about that, he’s doing what he loved, wholesale jerseysit was part of his life and he couldn’t live without IT, at the same time, he has never left English behind.

With the IT and marketing knowledge he obtained from workplace and English he has mastered; a couple of years ago, he quit the job and found a new marketing position in an American IT company in Shanghai.

Now he has 4 weeks holiday a year, which is exactly the same as working overseas.

A few days ago I saw his posting at Wechat moment “Chasing Silicon Valley Sunset.

I was curious: “Where are you?” “I am having a business trip in California.”

“Wow, that’s amazing!!!” His dream came true.

How lucky he is, yes or no, probably it’s because he’s spending time on what really matters to him by quitting the things which are not worth trying.

After you read the story, you might consider that you should learn IT and English, then good luck will follow you.

No, I don't’ think that way. IT might not be your passion.

Only if when you are enthusiastic about what you are doing, then you will be the best.

Because no matter how hard it is, you are willing to spend time, put all your effort to conquer difficulties and stay over in the darkest moment while most people are start giving up, then you’ll be the winner.

Before you begin a new thing, you should think very carefully, whether it makes your heart singing, no matter what happens to you, you will keep going.

If you hate English reading and writing, you are not interested in communicating with foreigners, cheap snapback hats,  you wonder if there’s meaning for English learning.

Then please don’t waste time on it, your time is limited, you can do something else you particularly enjoy.

If you are crazy about food, then join a cooking class, probably one day you will become a master chef.

Please don’t follow others, that won’t make you the best, you can only be the average, and then you can’t live on your dreamed life.

One friend told me: “Chinese employee are no good, they work hard, yes, but need to instruct them all the time, like babies, no strategy.”

“Shut up,” I argued:“I don't think all Chinese like that, that’s your stereotype.”

The ugly truth is that quite a lot of China skilled workers are not doing what we love, it starts from the Uni, girls are studying accounting; guys are having IT course.

We only have one purpose – get PR in Australia.

In the end, half people give up after graduation, they either get married to be a housewife taking care of kids or return back to China, the rest are doing a job nothing to do with accounting.

Probably less than half are joining CPA program for being a professional one, they are the qualified accountant, but some of them are not passionate about it, a few friends told me: “I don’t know whether it is useful or not?”

They are now on the track, the journey has been so long, it’s impossible for them to change the direction, but only the ones who are truly devoted to accounting, and then they will be a leader.

They show initiative at work, they don’t need other people inform them what to do; they don’t complain work longer hours even on the weekends because that’s part of their life.


I don’t think I can be that kind of person, it will drive me mad if I read laws and regulations, I used to fall asleep in the Uni for law subjects and got the worst marks, so that’s definitely not for me.

However, quitting at the right time is difficult, because everyone else is joining CPA program after graduation, do I need to follow them or not.

10 years ago, I didn’t have the idea that I should quit things I didn't like by doing things I truly loved.

Therefore, I hesitated for so many years; fortunately, cheap jerseysI didn’t join CPA program which I couldn’t put passion on.

Now I am on a new journey- writing, as long as it makes me happy, that’s the only thing matters.

In the end, hope you do what Seth Godin said: Quit the wrong stuff, stick with the right stuff, have the guts to do one or the other.

Thursday, June 1, 2017

Liverpool have changed their blood

The premier league is over and the players are on holiday, but club managers and senior managers need to consider a summer move. Liverpool won the fourth in the premiership, got the new season's champions league qualification, cheap nfl fitted hatsand at the coach ready for a big adjustment to the squad in the summer, the mirror says Mr. Klopp will sell and buy 5 5 people.
The five players who were listed on the list were: sacco, malkovich, moreno, sturridge and calius. Mr Sarkozy, who had been relegated to the reserve team this season, has been relegated to the crystal palace since last summer's clash with clop. Although Mr Sarkozy has done well in the crystal palace, Mr Kloop will not leave him, preferring to sell him this summer.
Malkovich and moreno at all because of poor performance toyed, malkovich in January this year on loan at hull city, but hull city unfortunately downgraded, he can only find other buyers. And lost all at left-back moreno is trust, crowe puning let veteran milner change at left-back is no longer with him, moreno if you don't want to sit the bench you have to leave in the summer.
Sturridge's ability is not a problem, but he has too many injuries, cheap nfl snapback hatsalmost no injuries, and few appearances during rehab. To win the championship, Liverpool need a more stable striker. Goalkeeper kali uz or crowe putin last summer signings, but some poor performance the last straw, Cali from January this year, has lost its main location, the fans want to sign a more experienced goalkeeper for next season's champions league.
The five players krope has signed up for are: kota, clichy, salah, raqazet and casillas. In leipzig, keita scored eight goals this season in the bundesliga assists 7 times, he can bring the impact of the current lack of for Liverpool midfielder, red army was willing to offer £ 37.5 million for this summer. Left-back is one of the Liverpool squad short board, the 31-year-old clichy in the premier league for many years, and the contract expires this summer and Manchester city, he's free to sign him.
When the horse is absent in this season, Liverpool's performance has a significantly decline, so Mr. Klopp want to sign a wide end, at quarterback and so-called "Egypt messi" salah is signings. This season salah has scored 15 assists in serie a and 11 times in serie a, and he has made the serie a side of the serie a gallo with astonishing speed. Liverpool have offered him 28m pounds, cheap jerseysbut roma have demanded a fee of 40m. The only concern is that Mr Salah's past performance in the premiership has been unimpressive.
If sturridge is up for sale, pull card zett was crowe's choice of replacement, he is Leon's top scorer, appearances stability goal of high efficiency, and the player has said will transfer in the summer. However, Manchester united and Arsenal are also interested in raqazet, which is listed for 50 million pounds. Former real Madrid goalkeeper iker casillas legend is the beneficial supplement of Liverpool goalkeeper position, Porto hope to dump the well-paid players this summer, but casillas rich experience for Liverpool very helpful.
At last summer to a lot of transfer, although there are successful in his signing has failed, but at least help Liverpool completed return to the champions league goal of the season. Next season Liverpool will be on a multiline campaign, and clop is again ready to make a big change in the squad, cheap snapback hatshopefully with good results.

Uefa's President opposes China's bid to host the World Cup in 2030

Uefa President cut fehling in an interview with reporters yesterday, made it clear that opposition to China's bid to host the 2030 World Cup, cheap MLB Hatsargue that China must obey the rules of the currently take turns to hold the World Cup on every continent, can't cut in line ahead of World Cup bid.
Cut fehling said, according to the rules of the bid to host the FIFA World Cup, uefa Russia will host the 2018 World Cup, so Europe can't bid to host the 2026 World Cup, need to wait until 2030. And Qatar, a member of the Asian football confederation, will host the 2022 World Cup, so the same rules will not apply to China, which is a member of the Asian football confederation, to host the World Cup in 2030.
Uefa's President made clear his opposition to China's bid for the World Cup in 2030
According to the cutting fehling's point of view, if agreed to China's bid for the 2030 FIFA World Cup, then the same interval according to the fixed number of year, Europe must also can bid to host the 2026 World Cup.
The biggest competitor to the World Cup in 2030 is not China, but South America, he says. With the centenary of the World Cup in 2030, cheap nba hatsFIFA is likely to give the green light to South America. "We will fight for the World Cup in Europe in 2030," he said.

juve renaming of the home will be announced

Juventus football club announced by the club's official website announced on Thursday, Juventus arena will be from July 1, 2017 changed its name to the allianz arena, cheap nhl jerseysnamed for six seasons.
At the club, "said in a statement, juve and allianz and lagardere sports after the facility of named contract, allianz arena will be the name of the new juve home. Starting from July 1, 2017, the stadium will be named the allianz arena, Turin for six seasons, until June 30, 2023. The stadium will be following the allianz arena in Munich allianz allianz arena, London, Sydney and nice park allianz Riviera stadium, Sao Paulo, allianz allianz arena after a park and Vienna allianz group named stadium." In the wake of the naming agreement, allianz will set up an "allianz arena" in the northeast and southeast corner of the stadium, as well as the main entrance and underground entrances.
Juve chief camp MSC and global strategic director George Ritchie said, "we are very glad to welcome the allianz group, in the form of named home become a member of our partners. Such as allianz global insurance giant, further proof that Juventus football club is into a first-class international club, at the same time, it also makes the already made history in serie a win stadium will play a more important role in the future. Our goal is to cooperate with allianz, let our fans get more enjoy, like and other help we will be transformed into comprehensive stadium pitch partners, to ensure that every game lets everybody having fun, cheap ncaa jerseysand make the stadium family leisure places."
Allianz board members barr pinot said, "for allianz, for one of the many town of world football particularly satisfied the stadium named let us. The stadium is unique, in Italy and Juventus is a a series of extraordinary success, and a huge popularity in the global club, both in the stadium and televisions, Juventus have millions of fans all over the world." Lagardere sports entertainment company chief executive Andrew George said, "with Juventus, allianz, the two prestigious international brand let us very proud of this agreement. In this way, allianz can all over the world millions of juve fans closer."
Juventus' new home was launched in 2011, after six years of "streaking," but the title was bought by the lagardere sports entertainment company for 75 million euros. Juve will also be the third team to be named after udinese and sasselo after being named allianz. Juve have high attendance at home, with 99 out of 114 serie a games in just six seasons, cheap soccer jerseyswith a high attendance rate of 96.7%.

United's sign

Manchester united are wary of the summer window, with Manchester city signing two, cheap mlb jerseysbut the red devils are still in the long run. After atletico Madrid sports arbitration court appeal was dismissed, window ban let Glenn boltzmann the possibility of a move to Manchester united gets smaller, the reds a guard jose mourinho can only adjust window signings in the summer of center of gravity. According to la gazzetta dello sport, united's agreement with inter milan on the transfer of perishic will be completed as long as the signings are signed.
Start negotiations with inter on Saturday, united, known as transfer is the process of the dispute on the table make price, millions of discrepancy may be produced in a few minutes. United initially tried to push the price down, hoping to get the best of jose mourinho. But atletico Madrid on Thursday the appeal fails, mean summer window sheet army cannot signings, Glenn boltzmann also timely and shown, all signs herald a grid may not to Manchester united in the summer, the reds top emergency adjustment plan, reinforcements sealed perry, at a high price.
Manchester united and inter have been agreeing a fee: 52 million euros (45.3 million pounds), cheap nba jerseysthe red devils eagerly to finalize sich aims to fill cannot introduce Glenn perry's vacancy. Jose mourinho's tactics system typically require a large center, even if bought little lattice boltzmann may also be listed as a winger, use the shadow front, perry, can also be competent for this two position. However, the arrival of the Croatian flash will compress the space of machar, which is bound to compete.
And inter sale perry sich also had, after all croats quarterly contribution 11 goals for the team 10 assists, two years ago from the Wolf fort nerazzurri he spent only 19 million euros. In order to balance the budget and meet the financial fairness policy, it is reasonable for inter to cut back on a large sum of money. What's more, perisic's relationship with inter fans is strained, and he is not happy in May. Manchester united prepared a salary of 7 million euros (about 120,000 pounds) for the club, nfl jerseys cheapas long as the croatians signed the contract.